Kids should not be spanked.
I think children or any age should not be spanked, heres why hitting children teaches them to become hitters themselves. All of the most criminals were regularly sexual abused or punished in childhood. Its normal that children learn attitude and behaviors through observation and imitation of their parents action for sick or healthy. Its is the responsibility of parents to set an example of empathy and wisdom for the child.
In many cases of so-called "bad behavior", the child is simply responding in the only way he/she can , given his/her age and experience to neglect of basic needs.These need would be: proper sleep and nutrition treatment of hidden allergies, exercise and sufficient freedom to explore the world around them. But the greatest thing a child needs from a parent is their undivided attention. It is surely wrong and unfair to punish a child for responding in a natural way to having important needs neglected. For this reason punishment is not only ineffective in the long run ,it is also clearly unjust.
Punishment distracts the child fro learning how to resolve conflict in an effective and humane way. A punished child becomes preoccupied with feelings of anger and fantasies of revenge and this deprived of the opportunity to learn more effective methods of solving the problem at hand. A punished child learns little about how to handle things like this in the future.
Punishment interferes with the bond between parents and children as it is not human nature to feel love towards someone who hurts us. Every parent desires can arise only through a strong bond based on mutual feelings of love and repeat. Punishment, even when it works can produce only superficially good behavior based on fear which can only take place until the child is old enough to leave home.
Many parents never learned in their own childhood that there are positive ways of relating to children, punishment does not accomplish the desired goal, and if the parent is unaware of the alternative methods punishment can escalate to more frequent and dangerous actions to the child.
Anger and frustration which cannot be safely expressed by a child become stored inside: angry teenagers do not fall from the sky. Anger that has been accumulating for many years can come as a shock to whose child now feels strong enough to express their rage that they have. Punishment appears to produce "goo behavior" in the early years, but always at a high price.
Spanking on the buttocks, an erogenous zone in childhood, can create in the child's mind an association between pain and sexual pleasure, and lead to a difficult childhood and adulthood as well. "spanking wanted" ads in alternative newspapers attest to the sad consequences that children go through and pain.
Even relatively moderate spanking can be physically dangerous. Blows to the lower end of the spinal column send shock waves along the length of the spine , and may injure the child. The prevalence of lower back pain among adults in our society may well have its origins in childhood punishment and sexual abuse.
Physical Punishment gives the dangerous and unfair message that "might makes right" that it is permissible to hurt some one else because they are smaller and don't have that much strength than adults.Then the child starts to think its okay to hit others that are smaller and younger children.When they are adults he/she can feel little compassion to though less fortunate than he/she is and fear thoughts who are more powerful.
Because children learn through parental modeling physical punishment gives the message that hitting is an appropriate way to handle the situation and express the feelings that are going on in your head.If a child does not observe a parer solving problems in a creative and human way, it can be difficult for him/her to learn to do this him/herself.
People who take the other side would think about it a love , you have to love your child enough to be fought and do whats necessary to get the desired result. Parents first fried second.
It helps the child learn its mistake and not to do it again.
Also they mite say that Parents do it to get respect to be feared in the sense of reverence is to be respected. Your children should be weary of going against your rules. It also teaches them to submit to authority regardless of whether or not they agree.
They also say that you want to teach them how to make good decisions our destinies are determined by decision-making. Children have the the option to bey or face the consequences, and they need to know consequences hurt.
They slo want them to have self control over there child when you are aware of what is on the other side of making poor decision it is easier to exercise restraint towards the child.They want full control over the kid.
They want them to be accountable of what they did wrong and what they did wrong like they want them to be able to own up to it and not lie. Decision has an outcome good or bad. just as your reward your child for good you must also push hem for bad.
Setting standers is another children need limits to lean how to grown up wit restraint. they will never be able to do whatever they want. Teach them to live by the rules in place. They can't do whatever whenever the feel like it.
Strength not weakness Parents seem to assume fragility rather than strength spanking your child properly is not going to make hem have a low self-esteem. Accepting mediocritizing and dismissing poor behavior teaches them to indulge in there weakness.
They would also say it would work best kids need it period when time-out talking and talking away toys doesn't work you have to get more and more hard on them to make sure they learn what there doing wrong and why they need to stop doing that or they will get in trouble again.
Gentle instruction, supported by a strong foundation of love and respect, is the only truly effective way to bring about commendable behavior based on strong inner values, instead of superficially "good" behavior based only on fear.
